Bravery is Conquering Fear

February 12, 2016


How many people do you know that you would describe as brave?

You may have had a different experience, but I find that brave people are quite scarce. The earth has a large population of foolish people, risk takers, show offs and “free spirits”, but a truly brave human is an uncommon find.

I suppose then, that I must define what I think bravery is…

In my personal opinion bravery is overcoming fear. For I would be surprised if you called someone brave for speaking in public if they thoroughly enjoy it and have never had any fear of it.


 Bravery is not the absence of fear, it is the conquering of it.

I am not always brave, in fact, rarely do I deserve that title, if ever, but that is in part why I am writing.

I want to be brave.

I have an irrational fear of people knowing my thoughts, ambitions, dreams… et cetera. This can no longer affect me. No person can live life to the fullest if they are bound by any fear other than the fear of God.

God is love.“There is no fear in love but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love.” 1 John 4:18

Bearing this verse in mind, there is no way to fear anything but God if we have been perfected in love by Him, the fear of God is the only pure fear, for it is not inspired by the fear of punishment but by our awe and respect.

“The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and the knowledge of the Holy One is insight. For by me your days will be multiplied, and years will be added to your life.” Proverbs 9;10-11

By beginning to write on this blog, I am gaining ground in my battle against fear.

My parents have been encouraging me to have a blog since I was ten years old, and I had one for a while, but you can imagine how that went. I posted only a few times.

Writing comes easier than speaking does in most scenarios. I suppose that is another influence of fear I have to eliminate, but like any war, I shall fight diligently until victory. If there is such a thing as complete fearlessness, I hope to find it. But then again, I am only human.

In this new world we live in, that is so unlike the ones of the past, for both better and worse (probably more for the worst), everyone is trying to be heard, and being different is less and less frowned upon, yet some things never change. People do crazy things just to get attention, and fear stops people from being awesome, war rages on… et cetera.

So I guess just being ourselves is pretty rare. Brave people are scarce, but very needed,



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08/03/00 ~ PHC 22' ~ VA ~ OR ~ Writer

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    1. Great post Kelsey! I love how you are moving forward in faith by putting your thoughts out there for anyone to see.

    1. I like your writing, thoughts and conviction very much. I appreciate your understanding of bravery and willingness to share. Thank you for sharing ! I would counsel about commenting on “others “, however, since I know that you and I are surrounded by very brave people in our families and communities.
      Congratulations on starting your blog ♡

    1. Thanks Kelsey for sharing. I was just this morning talking with my daughter about doing things even if we’re afraid. I love that you wrote “bravery is not the absence of fear, but the conquering of it.” I agree.
      Doing things we’re called to do, while still facing fear, is the mark of someone with an overcoming spirit.
      Thank you for posting this blog and sharing your heart. You are brave!

    1. Kelsey, this is exactly what I needed to hear. “No person can live life to the fullest if they are bound by any fear other than the fear of God.” This statement speaks directly my current circumstances. I really appreciate you sharing your journey as it has helped mine. Much love sweet girl.

    1. Kelsey,
      I have enjoyed following your mom and family as you all are such a refreshing and godly encouragement. As a person who used to live in fear always, I so love what you have written. Such a different spin on fear. Thanks for being bold and sharing your thoughts. Keep it up! There’s much wisdom in your words! All the best!

    1. Hi Kelsey! This is such an inspiring, encouraging blog post! You are a great writer. Thank you for sharing! Keep being BRAVE! The Lord is doing great things through you!


    1. Thank you for sharing. I’ve never looked at bravery from this perspective, but you are SO right! Super thought provoking. Thank you.

    1. Dear Kelsey
      Thanks for sharing a word that a grandma like me needed to hear this week, “Be BRAVE”. No matter what age you are – there will always be things you need to conquer, its a walk with Jesus that makes us lean deeper into listening to Him and following His call on our lives. Knowing Him makes the things we need to conquer part of a continual conversation that we have with the Almighty, being able to say I’m scared, and ask “help me conquer it” and listening while letting go of the fear is not always so easy for me, I seem to pick it up and take it back as my own sometimes, so I appreciate your words so much, knowing that God will humble me in the midst of growing me. So proud of my “very brave” granddaughter – and looking forward to seeing how Jesus grows you in this new venture. Love you, Nana.

    1. Very thought provoking, I’ve been experiencing anxiety lately which has caused me to sink deeper and deeper into my shell (unusual since I didn’t used to be this way), and I love the way you put that bravery is conquering your own fears. There are things I do that other people are afraid to do. And there are things other people do that I am afraid to do.
      Bravery is not the absence of fear, it is the conquering of it. Love that message and the verses you used.

    1. Dear Kelsey,
      Love your Blog. As a grandma of a 20 month old little girl, I pray that she will have the fear of God in her as she grows. I have seen so many children grow away from the beliefs of their parents regarding God. I grew up in a Catholic family and did not fear God growing up. It was very confusing going to a Catholic school and having nuns hit you for not knowing an answer to a question or hitting other kids for not paying attention. The nuns were very mean in the 60’s. I have been through some rough times in my adult years and I am a reborn Christian and know that Christ is the only way for my salvation and that my works are nothing without the sacrifice that Jesus gave us by dying on the cross for our sins. As a Catholic, I believed that as long as I was “a good person”, I would go to heaven. I also know that children can put on a show of being a Christian especially if they are being raised in a Christian home. I know that if I had not gone through a horrible divorce and even thinking about suicide at that time, with 2 young daughters, I don’t know that I would have ever known the truth. Sometimes a person needs to go through a tragic time in their lives so that they reach out to God and give their lives to Him and have total faith in Him to take care of them. I don’t have fear about my finances or health issues or anything this world can do to me as long as I have Jesus in my life. He is my life now and I would not change anything in my life (as though I could anyway). He knew what I had to go through to find my way to Him and now I will do everything I can to hold onto Him. I pray that you will receive encouragement on your new adventure of having a blog and I pray that God will protect you from hurtful comments. God be with you always.

    1. What a strong first post! I personally found it to be thought provoking and inspiring. I want to be the genuine kind of brave too!

    1. This is a great read. I love how you’re facing your fears! I’m 35 years old and began facing my fears at a young age too. It doesn’t stop! I face fears on a daily basis. Can’t say I always win – I do win more than I lose though. Keep up the good work! Could you write about the relationship b/w persistence and courage – persistence seems to be repeated courage over time – somehow I think this goes under bravery. What do you think?

    1. What a brave young lady you are! True role model! Thank you for what you do. I believe you are making a difference in someone’s life…you definitely made a difference in mine 🙂

    1. I loved your blog post! Thanks for sharing! I also struggle with fears and know the best way to deal with them is to consistently push back and run them through the question, “Is God trustworthy with _________?” Of course He is so we give the matter over to Him. Love in Christ!

    1. Kelsey,

      Awesome post and you are a leader for your generation, and a voice for every generation. I am looking forward to your posts of faith and witty perspectives. Love and blessings to you on your blossoming journey…

    1. Hey Kelsey!

      I found your blog from you Mom’s facebook and I must say, you are an EXCELLENT writer and I enjoyed it a lot! (I really admire a good writer because I was never one in high school lol). God has blessed you with gifts and talents. Keep up the good work and I will be praying for you and your family! Also, there is such a thing as living life FEARLESS. And that is only found in Christ. Just like the scripture says, perfect love casts out fear, as we accept His perfect love for us and BELIEVE Him and what He says, He takes away those fears. Before being born-again, my ‘old person’ was very fearful of pretty much everything, but I know and understand that that person is dead and buried with Christ now. The ‘new creature’ has emerged with NO FEAR! Now, am I tempted with fear often? YES! It tries to come and overtake me and tries to limit what God can do through me, but then I remember what God says, “My love has taken away the fear. Accept my love and that I’ll take care of you and that I’ll have your back. You have nothing to fear.” Continue walking with Jesus! He is the ultimate fear-taker, love-giver! Be blessed beautiful girl. 🙂

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